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In Memory of

Eva Frances Commer

May 13, 1931 - June 12, 2017

Obituary


Commer, Eva F., 86, went to be with the Lord on June 12, 2017. Married for 56 years to Dean Commer, widowed for 7 years. Mother and teacher to three sons, Eric (Jeanne) Commer of Wichita, Jan (Rebecca) Commer of San Antonio, and Andrew (Mary) Commer of Tulsa. Survived by five grandchildren, Hilary, Morgan, Molly, Amy, and Adam; two sisters, Virginia (Bert) Sutton of Monte Vista, Colorado and Louise Judd of Knoxville, Tennessee, and two widowed sisters-in-law, Ceola and Mae. Preceded in death by parents William J. and Susie Mae Cox, brothers Lawrence and Earl...

Commer, Eva F., 86, went to be with the Lord on June 12, 2017. Married for 56 years to Dean Commer, widowed for 7 years. Mother and teacher to three sons, Eric (Jeanne) Commer of Wichita, Jan (Rebecca) Commer of San Antonio, and Andrew (Mary) Commer of Tulsa. Survived by five grandchildren, Hilary, Morgan, Molly, Amy, and Adam; two sisters, Virginia (Bert) Sutton of Monte Vista, Colorado and Louise Judd of Knoxville, Tennessee, and two widowed sisters-in-law, Ceola and Mae. Preceded in death by parents William J. and Susie Mae Cox, brothers Lawrence and Earl of east Tennessee and Fred of Weatherford, Texas.
Funeral services are Monday, June 19 at 3:30 pm at Resthaven Mortuary, 11800 W. Highway 54, Wichita, KS. Viewing Sunday June 18 from 3:00-5:00 and one hour before the service on June 19.
Memorial contributions to Parkview Baptist Church, 3430 S. Meridian Ave., Wichita, KS 67217.


Life Story
Eva Frances (Cox) Commer
Born May 13, 1931 in Washington County, Tennessee
Throughout her childhood, Eva lived in the Cox home, a small farm on Kendrick Creek, at the intersection of Painter and Kincheloe Roads, about a mile from a crossroads still known as Harmony. She could walk to Harmony Church and Harmony Corner store, smack dab in the middle of "East Tennessee" and in the shadow of the Appalachian Mountains. Growing up on a farm ignited in Eva a love for barns that endured throughout her life. Her father William "Jones" Cox was the mail carrier for the area and, consequently, was a well-respected individual in the county. He was married to Susie Mae Keefauver. They raised six children: three boys, Lawrence, Earl, and Fred and three girls, Louise, Eva, and Virginia. Eva was the next to youngest of the six.

Childhood
At five years of age, Eva started school at Mitchell Springs School, a one-room school on their neighbor's property. Starting in the 4th Grade, she went to a 4-room school in Harmony where she stayed until she attended Fall Branch High School. She usually rode the school bus, and her father was not too pleased when she missed it and had to be taken to school. He would make sure she was there because he placed a high value on education, both her parents having been teachers at one time.
Eva attended Harmony Baptist Church where her father was a deacon. At the age of 12, she claimed Christ as her savior and was baptized in a creek nearby.

Adulthood
Eva met Dean on July 4th weekend, 1950 in Tennessee. Dean had traveled to Tennessee with Eva's brother Fred. Dean and Fred were in Spartan School of Aeronautics together in Tulsa, Oklahoma and had served in the Army Air Corps Reserve together.
Eva was smitten with Dean from the start. She thought he was nice and good lookin'. But nothing occurred between the two until Eva sent Dean a Valentine Card in 1951 that read "You can bet your boots I Like you!" They then started writing letters. Eva attended East Tennessee State College (now University) in Johnson City, Tennessee. Eva's roommate in college was Louise (would become Louise Childress). They became life-long friends.
Eva attended Central Baptist Church in Johnson City and recalls that she felt closest to Dean when she was in church. It just felt right. Eva really looked forward to his letters, but her parents had other thoughts. Eva was to graduate in 1952 with a Bachelor of Science Degree in Home Economics with a Minor in Art, prepared for teaching. Her parents wanted her to work a few years -- "just in case things did not work out with Dean." Consequently, W.J. and Suzie Cox discouraged Dean from pursuing Eva at that time.

So Eva applied and gained a teaching job in the high school in Saltville, Virginia, just about 50 miles up the road. She lived in the Saltville Hotel there with other first year teachers and had an enjoyable year, including drawing the interest of a few Saltville gentlemen. She remembers the year in Saltville as the most challenging, fun, and exciting year of her life. But she still had her heart set on Dean who, by this time, had taken a job in Wichita, Kansas. During the summer, she worked at the legendary 10,000 acre Prade Guest Ranch on the Frio River northwest of San Antonio, Texas. From an East Tennessee perspective, the Hill Country of South Texas was whole lot closer to Wichita, though she never got to see Dean during this time.
The next year, 1953, she had a one-year high school teaching job in Glenford, Ohio - not as pleasant an experience and more lonesome. Dean was in the Cessna Flying Club and flew up to see her in Ohio on Easter. It was then that Dean and Eva started again their plans to get married. Dean paid for her to travel to Kansas to meet the Commer family that Christmas.
In the summer of 1954, she moved to a boarding house on Hillside in Wichita and started planning the wedding. In fact, all the planning took place from this boarding house, including calling her family and friends. Eva worked for two months that summer at the Grand Opening of the new Wichita Sears at Lincoln & George Washington Blvd. When time for the wedding came, Dean flew them and his mother from Haven, Kansas in a small plane to East Tennessee.
They were married on September 5, 1954 on the porch of the Cox home place in East Tennessee. Eva's parents seemed to have had their desire for delay satiated. Dean's mother, Nell Commer, was the only Kansas Commer able to attend the wedding. For the wedding, Louise Childress' husband Fred sang, Eva's sister Virginia (Jenny) was her Maid of Honor, and Dean's twin brother Don was his Best Man. Her dad and mom did visit Wichita, Kansas after the wedding, in the couple's first apartment on Chautauqua Street. They never made it back to Wichita again from their home in East Tennessee.

In Wichita, Dean and Eva lived for a short time in a basement apartment on Chautauqua Street before purchasing the home they shared on Everett until 2009. They first joined First Southern Baptist Church and then moved as charter members to a small start-up church known as Parkview Baptist, where they raised their family and served the Lord.
Eva worked odd jobs now and then. In the 1970s, she worked one of the national census cycles collecting information from residents, sold World Book Encyclopedias, and served as a family counselor in Juvenile Court in Wichita. In the 1980s, she was regularly engaged in the County Extension Club, learning gardening, flower arranging, macramé. But she would have told you that her most challenging and rewarding job was raising three boys to successful adulthood, with all three serving the Lord and loving their families and each other well.
She always strived to honor Christ with her life, serving in many capacities, such as a Girls Auxiliary leader, nursery teacher and nursery coordinator, Christmas program director, member of the choir and a soloist, Junior High and adult teacher, leader of women's missionary union, member of countless church committees, and as a foreign student host family to several international students. She maintained contact with several of these foreign students for decades as they have grown their own families.
Eva's enduring relationships with her college roommate, friends, former students, neighbors, associates, foreign students, and family exhibited her best. Eva thrived on communication as the heartbeat of all relationships. Church services, organizational events, choir rehearsals, hosted parties, extended family gatherings, phone calls, greeting cards and letters were an opportunity to connect with or re-engage someone. She enjoyed finding out all she could about what was going on in someone's life, or their child's life, hearing their stories, and sharing the joys of life with others. Her address book had never-ending cross-outs and updates of individuals' contact info. She always desired connection and staying connected with others. She pursued lasting relationships. And she understood that life after this earth is determined by a lasting relationship with Jesus Christ.

Throughout her adult life, in addition to her church family at Parkview Baptist, she also enjoyed the radio ministries of "Grace to You" and "Insight for Living".
Her family has appreciated the care provided by her assisted living family at Vintage Park at Waterfront that allowed her to stay in her apartment in spite of her increasing physical requirements.
While homebound at assisted living, she particularly appreciated the Immanuel Baptist women's phone in Bible study and the TV ministry of First Methodist Church.
Eva's body will be laid to rest next to Dean's in the Garden of Prayer at Resthaven Cemetery to await their bodies' regeneration at the return of their Savior, Jesus Christ.

1 Corinthians 15:50-57: I declare to you, brothers and sisters, that flesh and blood cannot inherit the kingdom of God, nor does the perishable inherit the imperishable. Listen, I tell you a mystery: We will not all sleep, but we will all be changed-in a flash, in the twinkling of an eye, at the last trumpet. For the trumpet will sound, the dead will be raised imperishable, and we will be changed. For the perishable must clothe itself with the imperishable, and the mortal with immortality. When the perishable has been clothed with the imperishable, and the mortal with immortality, then the saying that is written will come true: "Death has been swallowed up in victory."
"Where, O death, is your victory?
Where, O death, is your sting?"
The sting of death is sin, and the power of sin is the law. But thanks be to God! He gives us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ.